WHO GETS TO THE ALTAR FIRST!!! Dedicated to Whitney Houston(A bright shiny light turned off prematurely!)

I woke up this morning to the shocking news of Whitney Houston’s Death!!!  A Bright shiny light turned off at the very young age of 48!!! Oh my God!!! Its sooo sad!!! She struggled, she fought but she never made it back on the right path!

 It makes my heart bleed to see such a talented young woman’s life practically waste due to the wrong decisions she made in her lifetime! 2oyears ago she met and married a handsome young man whom she thought like we all do, would keep her happy forever. But as it turned out he was to lead to the end of her life, destiny and dreams! It hurts to see how a bright, HUGELY talented life took a turn for the worst due to her choice in a life partner!

This has made me think, oh what would her life have been like if she had only made the right marital CHOICE!!! Her destiny took a fatal turn from the moment she set up camp 20 long years ago with her ex-husband Bobby brown... It just goes to show how the choices we make shape our destiny! They either make us better people eventually or lead to our downfall!

 I can’t say it enough!!! Whoever we decide to marry determines how the rest of our life turns out!!! Your choice of a marital partner goes a long way to determine what direction your future heads!!! Sadly though the choice of a life partner is one lots of people make at the spur of the moment, putting their future at risk and in jeopardy! It’s like going to the zoo and deciding to take the first animal you see home as a pet, What if that first animal is a Wolf? Its soooo not worth it!!!

Once again someone has sacrificed her life just so that we can learn this very vital life lesson and make the right marital decisions! It’s too huge a risk to take, it’s better to remain single and fulfil your God ordained destiny than to partner with the devil to end your God given destiny and vision! Yes she made a huge impact on the world even though she died young,but one cannot help but wonder....if she achieved so much in such a short time, lets rewind her life back to 20years ago when she said ‘I DO’ to her ex-husband and imagine that she married the right person instead, Someone who had Supported , Encouraged and Motivated her as against someone who battered ,introduced her to drugs and left her a half dead junkie! Just imagine how much more of a positive impact she would have made on the world! Whitney lost her most valuable asset which was her voice all in the course of the doomed marriage!

That brings me back to the thought, WAS IT WORTH IT??? I know a few older people who decided in their youth not to get married because they didn’t find anyone they felt was worth dedicating their lives to; instead they focused on their careers and made a success of their lives. One of such individuals is Oprah Winfrey, people might wonder why such a successful, wonderful,generous, bright woman decided not to get married or have any children, personally I have always understood her point of view! 


MARRIAGE is not a must!!! Not every one of us must get married! If you find someone whom you are convinced beyond all doubt would contribute positively towards helping you achieve your God ordained destiny and whom you love and loves you in return then by all means marry him or her! But if you don’t, please and please don’t get married because you are getting old or all your friends are getting married, please for your own sake REMAIN SINGLE! Being single doesn’t make you any less of a person!

Marriage is a partnership, it involves two people coming together to make a positive difference! If that union isn’t going to bring about a positive difference there is no point jeopardising your future all because you don’t want to be left out!

Whitney walked down the aisle 20 years ago, Hoping that she was making the right choice, maybe just maybe she should have thought it through more carefully before taking that fatal plunge 20 years ago! Oh death where art thou sting!!!

These days it’s almost like a  rat race,a race i call  ‘WHO GETS TO THE ALTAR FIRST’ once people start approaching 30,its almost like alarm bells start ringing in their heads, WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED!?! Even if the bells aren’t ringing, people around you will cause them to start ringing! If it’s not family members stylishly asking if there’s someone special in your life its friends asking ‘ WHEN ARE THE WEDDING BELLS RINGING? ’ Can I ask one question though.....MUST THE FREAKING WEDDING BELLS RING!?! Can’t one have a blissful, happy life without getting married? Don’t get me wrong I am all for getting married and finding that one special person, God knows that I’m also looking forward to having that in the nearest future but do we ever stop to think, WHAT IF I NEVER FIND THAT ONE PERSON ,THAT TICKS ATLEAST MOST OF THE BOXES FOR ME, AND I CONSIDER WORTH SHARING MY DESTINY AND  SPENDING THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH?

Marriage is great and important but greater and more important is who you are getting married to!!!  Is it really worth it trading your future and destiny for a beautiful wedding gown and tuxedo? Because that’s all it boils down to in the end! And if you get it wrong, the scars remain with you forever! Yes you might get a divorce, yes you might re-marry the right person but the scars will always be there!!! As single unmarried people, we are at an advantage; we still have the opportunity to make a difference by MARRYING RIGHT! Let’s grab this great, priceless opportunity by the horn and make the BEST of it!!! WE ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE!!!  Oh dear lord please help us all make the right marital decisions!!!

That said REST IN PERFECT PEACE MY DEAREST W.H. My only consolation is the fact that now you can find TRUE REST AND HAPPINESS THAT COMPLETELY ELUDED YOU WHILE YOU WERE ON EARTH!!!