WHO GETS TO THE ALTAR FIRST!!! Dedicated to Whitney Houston(A bright shiny light turned off prematurely!)

I woke up this morning to the shocking news of Whitney Houston’s Death!!!  A Bright shiny light turned off at the very young age of 48!!! Oh my God!!! Its sooo sad!!! She struggled, she fought but she never made it back on the right path!

 It makes my heart bleed to see such a talented young woman’s life practically waste due to the wrong decisions she made in her lifetime! 2oyears ago she met and married a handsome young man whom she thought like we all do, would keep her happy forever. But as it turned out he was to lead to the end of her life, destiny and dreams! It hurts to see how a bright, HUGELY talented life took a turn for the worst due to her choice in a life partner!

This has made me think, oh what would her life have been like if she had only made the right marital CHOICE!!! Her destiny took a fatal turn from the moment she set up camp 20 long years ago with her ex-husband Bobby brown... It just goes to show how the choices we make shape our destiny! They either make us better people eventually or lead to our downfall!

 I can’t say it enough!!! Whoever we decide to marry determines how the rest of our life turns out!!! Your choice of a marital partner goes a long way to determine what direction your future heads!!! Sadly though the choice of a life partner is one lots of people make at the spur of the moment, putting their future at risk and in jeopardy! It’s like going to the zoo and deciding to take the first animal you see home as a pet, What if that first animal is a Wolf? Its soooo not worth it!!!

Once again someone has sacrificed her life just so that we can learn this very vital life lesson and make the right marital decisions! It’s too huge a risk to take, it’s better to remain single and fulfil your God ordained destiny than to partner with the devil to end your God given destiny and vision! Yes she made a huge impact on the world even though she died young,but one cannot help but wonder....if she achieved so much in such a short time, lets rewind her life back to 20years ago when she said ‘I DO’ to her ex-husband and imagine that she married the right person instead, Someone who had Supported , Encouraged and Motivated her as against someone who battered ,introduced her to drugs and left her a half dead junkie! Just imagine how much more of a positive impact she would have made on the world! Whitney lost her most valuable asset which was her voice all in the course of the doomed marriage!

That brings me back to the thought, WAS IT WORTH IT??? I know a few older people who decided in their youth not to get married because they didn’t find anyone they felt was worth dedicating their lives to; instead they focused on their careers and made a success of their lives. One of such individuals is Oprah Winfrey, people might wonder why such a successful, wonderful,generous, bright woman decided not to get married or have any children, personally I have always understood her point of view! 


MARRIAGE is not a must!!! Not every one of us must get married! If you find someone whom you are convinced beyond all doubt would contribute positively towards helping you achieve your God ordained destiny and whom you love and loves you in return then by all means marry him or her! But if you don’t, please and please don’t get married because you are getting old or all your friends are getting married, please for your own sake REMAIN SINGLE! Being single doesn’t make you any less of a person!

Marriage is a partnership, it involves two people coming together to make a positive difference! If that union isn’t going to bring about a positive difference there is no point jeopardising your future all because you don’t want to be left out!

Whitney walked down the aisle 20 years ago, Hoping that she was making the right choice, maybe just maybe she should have thought it through more carefully before taking that fatal plunge 20 years ago! Oh death where art thou sting!!!

These days it’s almost like a  rat race,a race i call  ‘WHO GETS TO THE ALTAR FIRST’ once people start approaching 30,its almost like alarm bells start ringing in their heads, WHEN ARE YOU GETTING MARRIED!?! Even if the bells aren’t ringing, people around you will cause them to start ringing! If it’s not family members stylishly asking if there’s someone special in your life its friends asking ‘ WHEN ARE THE WEDDING BELLS RINGING? ’ Can I ask one question though.....MUST THE FREAKING WEDDING BELLS RING!?! Can’t one have a blissful, happy life without getting married? Don’t get me wrong I am all for getting married and finding that one special person, God knows that I’m also looking forward to having that in the nearest future but do we ever stop to think, WHAT IF I NEVER FIND THAT ONE PERSON ,THAT TICKS ATLEAST MOST OF THE BOXES FOR ME, AND I CONSIDER WORTH SHARING MY DESTINY AND  SPENDING THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH?

Marriage is great and important but greater and more important is who you are getting married to!!!  Is it really worth it trading your future and destiny for a beautiful wedding gown and tuxedo? Because that’s all it boils down to in the end! And if you get it wrong, the scars remain with you forever! Yes you might get a divorce, yes you might re-marry the right person but the scars will always be there!!! As single unmarried people, we are at an advantage; we still have the opportunity to make a difference by MARRYING RIGHT! Let’s grab this great, priceless opportunity by the horn and make the BEST of it!!! WE ONLY HAVE ONE LIFE!!!  Oh dear lord please help us all make the right marital decisions!!!

That said REST IN PERFECT PEACE MY DEAREST W.H. My only consolation is the fact that now you can find TRUE REST AND HAPPINESS THAT COMPLETELY ELUDED YOU WHILE YOU WERE ON EARTH!!!

Valentine’s Day: A blessing or a curse???

Valentine’s Day: A blessing or a curse???

Once again it’s that time of the year again.... In case you haven’t noticed Valentine’s Day is just around the corner!!!  Yes, February 14^th is just days away and hence the reason why i decided to write this article. For ages I have observed the fuss and buzz that comes with the preparation and celebration of Valentine’s Day, and it has always baffled me and amused me at the same time.... 

I recently had a chat with a few friends about Valentine’s Day and what exactly it means to them and it was really interesting to discover what it means to each and every one of them.

A friend of mine I would refer to as Bee said to me ‘Chee you know what? That’s actually a very interesting question u asked because for me Valentine’s Day has been more of a curse than a blessing she said jokingly. I asked her why? And she said really for her valentine’s day has always been the same as any other day. Even when she was in relationships it was always one boring valentine’s celebration after the other, she also went on to say that a lot of men this days are too lazy to be bothered about valentine’s celebration. They barely remember your birthday talk less of valentines!

Another friend of mine I would refer to as Kay, He said Valentine’s Day has been more of a blessing than a curse to him and it’s indeed a day he looks forward to every year. When asked why? He said He sees it as a day set aside to celebrate your loved ones and people dear to our hearts.  I personally thought this was a bit unusual for a guy as most guys don’t seem to care about such ‘Trivialities’ as I have heard them refer to it as a lot. So I decided to dig deeper and find out why Kay was so passionate about celebrating Valentine’s Day. After a lot of questions I discovered that Kay actually adopted his ‘valentine culture ‘from his parents. According to him, he grew up seeing his mum and dad exchange gifts lovingly every year on Valentine’s Day, and as a child this made a very strong impression on him. So at a very young age he made up his mind to adopt what I would call ‘The Valentine’s day culture’ Wow! Kays story really made me think! This just goes to show how far the actions of our parents contribute to making us the people we eventually become.

Personally, I think valentine is one of the very few celebrations where you have a lot of divided views.  For some people it’s a day they look forward to, while for some others it’s a day they dread! I recall back when I was at uni, valentine’s celebration used to be a HUGE deal. All the boyfriends had to impress the girlfriends with boxes of chocolates, expensive designer perfumes, huge teddy bears and loads of gift! And the girls on the other hand also had to represent by giving their boyfriends designer shirts, expensive bottles of wine, expensive gold and silver jewellery and loads of beautiful expensive gifts . There used to be a lot of buzz and excitement as February the 14^th drew closer and it was a lot of fun! Back then we had a few born romantics who serenaded their partners with Cartoon character themed mascots as well as expensive gifts and roses at 12.01 am on Valentine’s Day while their friends and room-mates watched adoringly.... :)

On the other hand we have people who practically dread valentine’s day because it’s a day that blatantly reminds them of their ‘singleness’ these people usually spend the day wishing they had someone they could exchange gifts with and share the day with.

I personally think Valentine’s Day should be all about the love shared and not necessarily who the love is shared with. I think the whole idea of Valentine’s Day has been misconstrued and as a result, Valentine’s Day celebration has been transformed into Couples day celebration.  It really shouldn’t be just about sharing love and gifts between lovers but it should in fact most importantly be about sharing love and gifts with the needy, less-fortunate and loved ones as well. It would be refreshing to see a wider display of love and affection on Valentine’s Day.  I really do think that over the years the true significance and meaning of valentine has been watered down such that it’s been turned into a selfish celebration so to say. Its A Syndrome I would refer to as Me, My lover and I syndrome. lol! 

1ce again its valentines people, lets share the love most importantly with those who need it the most!!!! That said,

 HAVE A HAPPY VALENTINES DEARIES!!!!

SO MANY BOYS STUCK IN THE BODIES OF MEN!!!

I look around me everyday,and my heart bleeds for the men of this generation.....

we are supposed to be the  future leaders,fathers,parents of 2moro....

and yet the supposed 'men' amongst us never cease to amaze me......

can sum1 pls tell me wat signifies the graduation of a boy into a man???

generally  once a young boy hits puberty and starts growing beards,he is automatically assumed to have become a man....

This is soo wrong because evidently there are soooo many boys stuck in the bodies of grown men......

At this point you would ask me WHAT MAKES A BOY A MAN???

POSSESSION OF A SENSE OF RESPONSIBILTY,MATURITY,POSSESSION OF A PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD,SELF CONTROL,A VISIONARY INDIVIDUAL,to name a few.....

In our world today, if u were to be sincere with urself you will agree with me that alot of men lack most of the basic characteristic of a TRUE MAN.....The truth is,you cannot give what u dont have,if we refuse to make conscious effort to make ourselves responsible pple and improve our selves both physically and most importantly spiritually,what do we expect of our future offsprings??? how dare we even expect our children to be better???  

A parent is d first role model a child has,so whatever you sow into the life of that being GOD has placed in your hands is what you will reap.....where did we get it all wrong??? if our parents made dis mistakes must we also make d same?? why not make conscious effort to end this generational disaster today???

MAY GOD GRANT US ALL WISDOM TO MAKE A CHANGE NOW THAT WE CAN.............

THE WORLDLY AGAINST THE GODLY!!!

Yes Yes Yes, I know its really difficult!!! after-all,we are all human....BUT!!!

please live ur life according to 'GODS STANDARD' as against according to 'WORLD STANDARDS' !!! People will call u stupid,a fool,a dulling person,un-wise.....but guess what??? GOD WOULD OPEN THE HEAVENS ON UR BEHALF!!! Forget about what the realistic and 'normal' thing to do is....what is the GODLY thing to do??? DO IT TODAY!!!

Its really sad how,d world has made the 'WRONG' things the norm....it really makes me sad to see things that shouldnt be acceptable in our society,and should be totally frowned at suddenly become normal....everyday,i see things,i hear things, and i cringe because all of a sudden the rules have changed!!! 

my dearest friends....it starts with us....lets change the world 1 person at a time......for once,forget about what the world sees as acceptable and ask urself that question uve been running away from..........

WHAT IS THE GODLY THING TO DO???? MOST IMPORTANTLY,PLS DO IT!!!